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Reflection: Helping Others

Tennessee Owl

I have done no postings to my blog in recent months for a variety of reasons. It has been a time of deep reflection about my life, service, and helping others. I have been: Responding to and re-balancing after the passing of my mother in October at age 90. Evaluating the purpose and value of […]

Communication Is More Than Talking

Yellow Lilies

Communication is one of my passions, and it’s clearly a key part of any relationship or marriage. It’s also a foundation for good consultations aimed at unified decision-making between a couple and in a family. However, it is often more than talking. One of the things I love about communication is the sheer variety related […]

Giving and Receiving Hospitality

Hospitality at Home

Hospitality is an opportunity to help people feel welcome in your home. It spreads happiness when you smile, offer refreshments, and help people feel comfortable. Have you had anyone over recently? There is an effect on you as well. I notice my husband and I feel uplifted as we prepare our home to be clean […]

Is There Hope for Marriage?

Yellow Flowers - Hope for Marriage

Can a marriage last? Yes, there is hope for marriage: It truly is possible to succeed. You are likely exploring the idea or reality of marriage at a time when marriage is often devalued, and cohabitation and divorce seem common. It is likely that friends or family have gone through divorces or relationship breakups after […]

Being Friends

Couple and Friends

Being friends is a unique choice to be connected and share time and experiences together. When you are friends, you bring honest perspectives and mutual encouragement to each other. You share an often unspoken commitment to accompany each other for a stretch of time. When the commitment blends with a romantic or marriage relationship, it […]

Practice Thankfulness

Roadside Golden Flowers

In parts of North America during the autumn harvest period, people practice thankfulness for blessings. In close relationships, expressing loving appreciation to each other for positive actions is part of what contributes to happiness. In my book Creating Excellent Relationships: The Power of Character Choices, I define “thankfulness” as “expressing warm, genuine feelings of praise, […]

10 Guidelines for Making Decisions

My Lonely Island - Niijima Coast at Sundown

Here we go again! Every time we face making decisions, we have trouble doing it without fighting. Help! Having effective discussions and peacefully making decisions that work are often challenges for couples. Increasing skillfulness in this area will help your relationship or marriage mature in a healthy way and stay strong and happy. For a couple to […]

Flexibility with Change

MT - Logo

We live in a world that changes quickly. However, some of us are more adaptable than others. Flexibility with change may not be easy for you. Change sounds exciting and fun for some! For others, it is something to resist and dread. How does this play out in relationships and marriage? In the early stages, […]

Giving Birth to Stepchildren


I feel like I have just given birth. Being a stepmother is like being in labor over time, and in my case, I’ve inherited my stepchildren already fully grown. But, they are still maturing and finding their paths in life. Over the last weeks, I’ve poured a tremendous amount of time and energy into helping […]

Support Your Marriage

Red Berry Bunch

Do you feel at times like your marriage has more threats against it than support? If so, it’s time for you to intentionally build a support structure that protects the unity and happiness of your marriage partnership. Number 1: Start with ensuring your commitment to each other and your marriage is strong. Re-visit your marriage vows and […]

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